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Ryan O'Neal's emotional interview with Piers Morgan airs tonight, 9pmET/PT, and the actor talks about his daughter Tatum O'Neal, his longtime love Farrah Fawcett and, in some cases, how they intersected in his life. "What bothers me the most is that there was turmoil during my love affair with Farrah, a lot of it caused by my family and my kids," O'Neal said. "All of them, but particularly Tatum. And I just think that if she had never met us, would she still be alive today? Because nobody knows what causes cancer."
After Piers questioned whether he truly believed the stress from Tatum and others could have caused Fawcett's cancer, O'Neal said: "Maybe it isn't true but it's possible...Sorry Tatum, but you probably know, too." Watch the full hour tonight, 9pmET/PT.
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Ryan O'Neal is a horrible father. He's incorrigible. Not only does he ruin his kids' lives but now he's blaming them for Farrah's death too! People can see right through his ridiculous claims. Even if he felt Tatum caused Farrah's death, the fact that he would actually say it is very sick and twisted. He's your classic narcissist. He NEVER takes responsibility for being a terrible Dad and he's apparently the only one who can't see the truth or the forest through the trees. His self deception and blindness are nauseating. I have relatives just like him so I know what I'm talking about.
I so agree with you, Kim! When I saw Tatum interviewed by Piers recently I could see how frayed she was by the attempt to get some kind of reconciliation going with Ryan. He'll always hurt her and is not interested in her having a happy life. I don't think she understands his narcissism. Very sad.
He is such a horrible human being (can we even call him a human being?). What a total jerk.
Being a mental health professional, I watch Ryan O'Neil as I write this. I do not know if he and his daughter have been diagnosed, but they both appear to have mental health issues, such as borderline personality, or bipolar disorders. Everyone has issues, but they both appear to be in great need of proper treatment. Ryan's grief is nothing more than his obsession with himself, as is Tatum's problem. I think that to hear all this in the public forum is too much. Surely they have money, to use to retire in humility and find grace. Some parents do not know how to parent, and this appears to be the case here. Tatum was the child, he was the parent.....end of story. Sad, they both need serious help. They say they have found spirituality, so I hope this helps them let go of the past and move forward so that they can still have some sort of a life in the future. Otherwise, I see nothing but more sadness. No different in many ways than Charlie Sheen, Rosie O'Donnell, Britney Spears and Roseanne Barr at the height of their worst nightmare. I have enjoyed watching Shania and Sarah on OWN because it shows the personal growth and self discovery, but will pass on the Judds and the O'Neil's. Who need this?
The problem is that both have been drunks and both are hasbeens. They both need to go away and leave Farrah to rest in peace. God knows she's earned it
There are no state licenses give out for "mental health professional."
"Being a mental health professional, I watch Ryan O'Neil as I write this." ???? What does that even mean? I know this is a bit off point (the point being that Ryan O'Neal is a pig), that is such a convoluted, ill-written sentence, I can't believe it came from a "professional" ANYBODY!
I don't understand why either of them feel the need to air their neediness on public t.v., is this how celebs cope with their problems? I'd be embarrassed to do something like this. I think they should both "quietly" get help and move on with their lives as best they can!
the problem is people like ryan oneal should have never been allowed to be a father in the first place. people like him should have all his kids taken off him the moment they were born. like you said, Tatum WAS THE KID and he was THE ADULT. FULL STOP. one word to discribe this man. PATHETIC. i hope he die alone with no one around him, he deserves it.
I feel very sorry for Ryan O'Neal's children- he is a cruel man that takes no personal accountability for anything. He is too busy looking for support for himself. Hey Ryan, who is the adult here? Heartbeaking for Tatum when all she wants is to be loved and respected by her Dad. Sometimes you just have to leave dysfunctional people behind to be healthy. Even if that person is your father.
Exactly................................both are adults. End of story.
Ryan Oneill is without a doubt a horrible father and person, he only cares about how he is perceived, he has ruined his kids lives and has the nerve to sit there and call his children liars, and fantasists, he even goes as far to doubt that Griffin is his biological son. I can't believe the comment about Farrahs cancer and he thinks that Tatum and he caused it!!! Include yourself Ryan, don't include Tatum, you never bothered including her in any other thing in your life!!
If he's going to blame his kids, then he might as well blame his & Farrah's son. Redmond's addiction and arrests had to have put on a lot more stress. But Ryan is just a jerk.
I totally agree. Redmond's arrests and drug use had to cause Farah a lot of pain. The common denominator in Tataum, Griffin, and Redmond's life is Ryan. Griffin has disowned his father... good for him. Tatum actually wants to heal the relationship with her dad... all he can do us continue to cause her pain.
He sounds and acts like he is intoxicated or doing drugs. Ryan ONeal needs to withdraw from doing pubic appearances with whatever grace and dignity he has left. I can say that this interview did not help his image at all...........
I totally agree! Ryan O'Neal is a sick and twisted man. He sees himself as a victim! What????? Total narcissist. Sickening to hear him keep saying that Tatum" didn't help" him. Tatum "wasn't there for me". For Gods sake, she is the CHILD, he is supposed to be the mature adult and father. How sad for his children.
Ryan is the sorriest excuse for a father I have seen in a ling time. He never takes responsibility for anything in his life or in his children's. It is always she did not support me, they did not help me. you are the father you idiot. It was your job to support and help your children. I have never seen someone sounable to take responsibilty for his life. A VERY SORRY HUMAN BEING.
I have a narcissistic, manic mother, who is the female version of this monster Tatum had for a father.
She is the "Queen of Denial" – sailing up and down on her barge, never to blame for anything that went wrong. And boy was she physically, verbally and emotionally abusive. Every single day of my life till I finally moved out. Even now as an adult in my thirties, none of the dysfunction has changed. I finally had to let go of the mother I always wanted as a little girl, and grapple with accepting the toxic mother that I have. Which for my own sanity I could not do. So I let go of wanting her love and attention and acceptance. I keep her thousands of miles away from me, and ask her repeatedly not to write, and not to call. She still doesn't know why...
I have a narcissis of a father who put me down my whole childhood and in adulthood. This interview was depressing to watch as my father is about the same age as Ryan and just as clueless about these things. I was brought up with material things but my mother did all the work when it came to love. Being the only son and with all the crap it has hindered my ability to live a happy and successful life. My dad is lonely now and says he wants to try at a relationship but I just don't want him around. Watching this interview just clarified this more for me.
THANK GOD HE WASN'T MY FATHER.
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU
Personally I thought Pierce did an outstanding job on the interview with Tatum's Father Ryan. I was nearly brought to tears thinking how hard it can be to deal with a teenager that is out of control and a parent not able to stop the disaster in the offspring's life, about to take place. But..... there comes a time in everyone's life, they have to quit playing old records in their head, grow up & except responsibility for their own errors. I'm sure the Father was not aware of his errors anymore than the daughter hasn't excepted the fact she too, put her father through hell. I doubt there are many perfect parents & even those that try as hard as they can to muster up courage to deal with out of control teenagers, still find their teenager has a mind of their own and by the time they become adults need to move on and quit blaming others for their issues. As far as Ryan blaming his children for his wife's death, he was stating something I have read; that stress can possibly be a contributor to many diseases. Cut Ryan some slack, it took a lot of courage to face the world with his family's issues and possibly their experiences will help to encourage other families to seek help from professionals if they themselves can't seem to work out family problems. Maybe perfect parents, couldn't feel the pain the Father was feeling but this not perfect parent like many others could.
YOU are an IDIOT if you think this pathetic selfish piece of garbage called Ryan O'Neal is the victim in any of this! Tatum is a victim of child abuse!
wow you ARE MAKING excuse for Ryan. you know , like one of the earlier comment pointed out. HE WAS THE ADULT, HE WAS THE ADULT, HE WAS THE ADULT. do you want me to repeat that some more in case you are in DENIAL.
i put my parents through hell, and guess what, it DOES NOT CHANGE THE FACT THEY STILL LOVE ME UNCONDITIONALLY AND BEHAVE LIKE A PARENT SHOULD. maybe you are the kind of parents just like ryan. that is why you are making excuses for him. furthermore, if Ryan did what HE SHOULD HAVE. then Tatum would not have act out as a CHILD.
I'm a single dad of two daughters and watching this show tonight with Ryan O'Neal made me sick. , Mr. Oneal had the opportunity long ago to be what he should have been to his children, a father. Instead, he chose his crotch. He had the opportunity to help shape their lives, to teach them right from wrong, to instill the values that would lead them to healthy, happy productive lives, to be there to listen to their problems and help them solve them, to share in their triumphs, to hold them and give them encouragement during their defeats, to give them unconditional love. Your failure as a father, Mr. Oneal is apparent. The sadness is that your children deserved so much more, and now you publicly express your disappointment in them and how they have not been there for you. I am not an overtly spiritual man, but tonight, I will say a prayer for your children to heal and find peace. For you Sir, you reap what you sow.
Thanks JB well said. I get the impression you are a wonderful father--something Ryan would never know how to be-I'm not sure there is enought therapy to help him see the hole in his heart and soul.
I believe all of them are narcissists and possible sociopaths..this includes Ryan, Tatum, and even Farrah. Ryan is an obvious one. Tatum, regardless of her excuses, was a drug addict, alcoholic, and horrible mother to her own children, putting herself and her problems before her family. Farrah also showed no responsibility for the abandonment of Ryan's children. She didn't protest. She wasn't sickened by his horrible actions to abadon the children for her. In the end, her poor choices may have caused her demise. Her son, gave her tremendous stress. She caused most of her own problems, I'm sorry to say. Yes, she was a beauty, but surely not a responsible mother. Shame on us for putting beauty before goodness.
Well said...totally agree.
Your right Kim, about Ryan O'Neill...But how stupid is he to say...we don't know how you get cancer...he believes STRESS caused Farrah's dreaded disease...A big HELLO to O'neill...WE DO KNOW HOW YOU GET CANCER ! Farrah died from rectal cancer ! I hope Piers Morgan has the courage to ask O'Neill the 64,000.00 question...How do you think Farrah got rectal cancer ? You don't ge it t by smoking cigarettes ! Nor do you get by drinking too much ! I think O'Neill has alot to answer for. Is it any wonder Farrah omitted him from her estate ?
I agree totally
what a dysfunctional excuse of a person he is
I hope Tatum can finally resume her career and unload this big baby baggage asap forever! she doesn't need him
Not to judge but when he and Farah hooked up she was married to Lee Majors. So they broke up Major's marriage to be together. I agree with him that cancer is death in disguise and could be caused by mean ugly things. But before he b
lames anyone he should own up to breaking up a marriage he and Farah both.
I mean did they really think God would bless them after what they did to Majors?
Sorry Ryan, but Farrah died of a hpv transmitted cancer which you likely you infected her with. So maybe get yourself tested, try not to infect anyone else, stop blaming your daughter! Really rather pathetic attempt to place blame on a bystander. You caused this cancer in all likelihood and might try to confront that reality!
I listened to the entire thing, and it sounded like he was labeling himself as the "catalyst" try to avoid LYING to suit your own agenda!
Ryan is a horrible being... He was a horrible father, is blaming everyone and their dog for something... No wonder all of his children are addicts, misfits... Having him as a father...
I agree with you kim..sorry but Ryan O?neal really has to be the worst father EVER.....the man is delusional as well
Ryan is a horrible father. Tatum is looking for something that isnt there. And YES stress from family disfunction can cause illness. I find it discusting that they are now dancing on Farahs grave so to speak. Tatums a narcissist just like her father. She was a pain in the ass to Farah and now this? Geesh.....get a life Tatum
It is not Tatum's fault that farrah died! , she was a child!!!! for gods sake!
What is this guy on? Seriously. He's slurring his speech and speaking nonsense. I'm thinking his son isn't the only one who likes his drugs.....
you are in my prayers, cause youre as sick as ryan. so sad.
O'Neal's claim is preposterous! Two years after her death and THIS is all he could say about her? Wow. Get over it!
As a cancer survivor I am disgusted that Ryan is trying to blame that as the reason for her cancer. Last time I checked, she was a big girl and could have left you in the dust at anytime. If this was the reason for cancer....don't you think alot more would be dying of it? GET A GRIP...........PERHAPS YOU NEED MEDICATION ALONG WITH THERAPY.........LOTS AND LOTS OF IT!!!
LOOKS TO ME HE'S HAVING LOTS OF MEDICATIO9N (SELF=INDUCED.) AND NONE OF IT IS DOING ANY GOOD.
This comment reflects more on you than it does Ryan O'Neal. So do you feel better knowing you said that? Sounds like a case of you needing to have some power & wanting to find a person who "appears" in worse shape then you. I know one thing for sure, a person who is truly happy would not make a comment such as you did. I know Ryan isn't well but he as I said willingly went to therapy (when he said he would never go) & participates in his daughters life which is a living amends. He also is not aware of a lot & is opening up & owning his part in most. I hope & pray for the O'Neal Family. It's sad when others can't support someone who clearly is trying. Or did you spend lots of time with him & I am wrong? Thought so. Read my comments below about the book 'You Can Heal Your Life.' The book talks about how cancer can be caused by what Ryan said. Plus Ryan didn't say it was for sure but he said "likely." People don't read books anymore or what.
........oh............and another thing................explain how turmoil causes cancer in infants and young children..........again..........doctors can get the "god complex".............NOT YOU! GET A GRIP!!
There are MANY aspects & contributing factors to cancer & ONE (not the only one) just ONE of them being stress from envirnoment/toxic people. Tatum is in AA program & alcoholics are VERY SICK people. I have studied alcoholism for 20 years & it's a very misdiagnosed disease. It's safe to say Tatum was very sick & an alcoholic is not made they are born. She also sustainned abuse from parents but she still would have been an alcoholic. People, who are alcoholics, that I have worked with who have had the "perfect" childhood still were alcoholic at the end of the day. When a infant gets cancer it can be a result of many thing & believe it or not it can be what envirnoment the mother was in (i.e. stress) or genetically predisposed umong other factors. Don't think for a minute it can't be stress. Whatever the mother is going through, the baby feels it. I could go on, but I'm sure you get the picture. I was late on this discussion, but wanted to see what was said b/c I watched the show recently for a specific reason. Ryan O'Neal willingly went to therapy continues to go when he said he never would. He deserves to make his wrongs right without being ridiculed by others. None of these (nor myself) know Ryan O'Neal. I feel people put others down b/c it makes them feel powerful, less messed-up & they want to focus on someone who "appears" worse off then they do. It is the truth, but most won't admit it. Sad we can't support others when they are clearly not well & getting help through a trainned/educated professional... willingly. I hope & pray for the O'Neal Family. I hope they all find peace in there hearts.
How is saying he wasn't able to control his family – that he was a catalyst (for the 4 of them) blaming Tatum and Tatum alone? I think he was saying that stress played a part in Farrah's illness – maybe not the only one but a part. Yes, Farrah could have walked away but she didn't. It sounds like Ryan suffers from enormous guilt – that he wasn't the best father – I have never seen an interview where he says he was a good father – in fact the opposite is true. He even said he was a bad father in front of a judge when Redmond was being sentenced.
I've seen Ryan say he's a bad father but I still don't think he gets it because he seemingly hasn't done anything to correct the situation. He just tells people what they want to hear when the heat is on but there's nothing behind it.
Also, if Tatum is or was a 'pain in the ass', how'd she get that way? Kids aren't born wearing ski masks ....and the kids don't take after the neighbors!
I know it's not pollitically correct to blame parents anymore but I think we all know the truth: if a kid screws up or ends up on drugs, it's usually because of bad parenting.
Ryan O'Neal is the most egotistical ass. He's a horrible father. It's all about him. He can't see through his own crap that his daughter just wants him to love her. We can all see why all of his children have struggled with substance abuse.
Poor poor Ryan O'Neal, it's all about him. What a pitiful excuse for a father and human being. And Mr. Morgan I am disgusted by the way you are egging him on.
What a moron. He's the one with the mental problem, and probably was the primary contributor to his kids issues.
I agree with above, what a pitiful excuse for a father. He's responsible for all their problems both emotional and drug related. I can't even watch this any longer. Time to change the channel.
How outrageous that Ryan would make a comment that Tatum possibly caused Farrah's cancer. It is so ridiculous and cruel.....what a TERRIBLE father ...he is so narcissistic and really dumb. He is someone who got along on his good looks and never developed insight or brains or empathy. He's so into himself.
I think Piers should escort him off the stage.
Oh I can't stand watching him, he's pathetic.
Wow this is sick...I wouldn't replay this after tonight it makes me want to vomit. There is mental illness involved in this story with him. This is awful
I'm stunned not only by the narcissism of this man but that he's obviously stoned and slurring. And coming on the day after Fathers' Day should tell the world that it takes a whole lot more than a piece of DNA to make a real FATHER. What child isn't going to resent a new "mother" figure? His horribly, emotionally-abused children should abandon him on a street corner, never to look back. It's no wonder – with two addictive parents, and one of them expecting to "take care of him" and "help him" is true mental illness. Ryan, before you give another interview – GROW UP and GET SOBER, you old fool.
" ... she doesn't tell the truth"....imagine saying that about your daughter. His crocodile tears enrage me, .....why should his daughter 'save him" He is not the adult.....
There's nothing to strip him of, he's a shell of a man.
You are an obviously horrendous listener and lack any subtlety, intelligence and conversational style. Every day I hope your interviewing skills will improve, but you somehow get worse. You manage to ruin the opportunity for us to hear from and about fascinating people by injecting your own inane, narcissistic and tone deaf dribbling.
The upper management at CNN cannot be watching this daily trainwreck and thinking it's remotely successful programming. How can you continue to keep this job? I want to hear about the people you interview, but can't stomach you across the desk. I never appreciated Larry King as much as I do now. Please back to American Idol, or whateve is was you were doing and let someone else talk to these people.
I totally agree - there will never be another Larry King...............but Piers has to go. A good interviewer is one who listens !!
I believe Pierce Morgan is the most straight forward interviewer I've ever witnessed on TV. He's a bright interesting interviewer on so many subjects. I'm grateful Morgan replaced Larry King, a outmoded source of TV commentator, Morgan is about what news people should be asking the tough questions from his subjects. Hurray! P. Morgan I'm a fan!
Misspelling your own name here is pretty lame. We don't care about you and don't want to know anything about you when you are interviewing someone. We don't care about your rotten children and don't give a crap about the British POV on any subject, despite your insistence on injecting it into every interview you destroy.
AC....you must be a professional interviewer yourself, if you feel that it's O.K. to criticize Piers so harshly. I have seen interview subjects stomp off the set of any number of interviewers over the years...INCLUDING Larry King!! What would the point be if Piers challenged Ryan every time he said something stooopid? We'd never get an hours worth of information out of him. Far better for Piers to do as he did, which was to clarify some of the statements made by Ryan, so that there was no misunderstanding of what he said and how he felt.
For all of you people here who are agreeing with Ryan and his actions in regard to his children, I have this to say:
"AS THE TWIG IS BENT, SO GROWS THE TREE"
It is OBVIOUS that this was an extremely controversial episode, judging by the number of comments on this site.
I CERTAINLY HOPE THAT THIS PROGRAMME WILL BE REPEATED SOON, SO THAT I CAN ALERT MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO TUNE IN!!???
When is Piers Morgan going back to England? His interviewing style is so abrupt, insensitive, and often times...just plain rude! Bring back Larry King...or find someone who has his integrity, intelligence, and respect. UGH...Piers is awful.
Ryan is a tool. Everything can't be Tatum's fault. She was child and you were the adult.
There are so many things about this interview that make my skin crawl. Ryan O'Neal flat out states that he blames his children, especially Tatum, for Farah Fawcett's death. In another place he blames them for not loving Farah the same way he does. AND THEN he complains that his children don't love him – dripping petulance – that even when he "crawled" he was rejected.
This is so far beyond DADDY DEAREST, beyond clinical narcissism, that it breaks my heart. He talks about his pride, continues to criticize Tatum for actions taken and not taken years ago. He pretends to take responsibility, but he does not. He continues to make his children suffer for his own toxic pathology.
I wish every best thing to Tatum and her brothers. Their father does not deserve them. Ever.
Ryan you do not talk to 3 of your kids. You beat one up when he was a kid (there are pictures of that). 2 maybe 3 have been drug addicts. But it is not your fault. Your kids are better off with you out of their lives. You really are a total loser.
Didn't Ryan have situations with his children involving guns, and or drugs and violence? The (love of his life)!left him ane he allegedly did drugs with his kids. What part of that is Tatum's? He is a really bad person.
I'm a cancer survivor, as was another contributor above. I have to say that my experience taught me that we cannot look for places or people to lay the blame on. The curse of cancer takes people we love away. And to use that curse on the living and lay guilt on them is cruel and unnecessary at best and pure stupidity and ignorance.
This sad excuse for a father should not be given air time; he is sick. He would be better suited on the Bachelorette, that is a suitable forum for narcissistic, sociopaths.
this guy is a freak! He is acting as if Tatum was a girlfriend??? hello father of the year she is your child!!!!! It was no longer about YOU the day she was born. And did i really hear him say Farrah didnt drink or do drugs? Is he serious?
Having watched Ryan and his wife, while pregnant with Tatum, alcohol already had a large place in his life by the time he was just out of high school. I attended a grad nite party at the O'Neal family home for Ryan's younger brother. He was sloppy drunk, hitting on every young female, and when it was my turn, I said something about his wife looking very pregnant and very tired – that she might need his attention. He poured a stein of beer over my head.
Unfortunately, Tatum mistakenly learned, too young, how to fight for her father; that she played the roles of both child and mother/wife in a bizarre psychological way. She needed a complete family, including a mom, but didn't have that option, so she staked claims to Daddy. A woman for a night or two was fine – Farrah was threat to Tatum's world.
Please someone needs to send Ryan O'neal for a mental evaluation. I hope someday he can listen to the things he has said in this interview with a clear mind. I think he is the one not living in the here and now.
Ryan, shame on you. You were the father, not much of one I must say even now. You are suppose to protect your children.
"My children helped me develop my temper"......omg......and he refers to his son as ..."the other guy" and never been more relieved that he doesn't see his son who was arrested 40 times......how shameless he is. Referring to his children as wild and bad as if he had nothing to do with it.
Good for you Piers, at least you called him on the fact that he didn't go to the hospital to pick Tatum up after the accident;
"she had a wonderful childhood, she met Queen Elizabeth, she danced with Michael Jackson, she was a happy camper"....can you believe this guy....he's outrageous.
My heart wanted to come out of my mouth hearing all the horrible things Ryan said.
No matter how twisted a child turn out to be, you NEVER abandon them, much less say that you doubt it's your child!
What a horrible horrible man, I won't say father, because he is not a father.
Tatum's mother's biggest mistake was handing over custody of her children to Ryan.
It is only natural for Tatum to have felt left behind by her father since he was a disgusting man who chose women over dedicating himself to his daughter, he was interested more in his illusion of love then realizing importance of the love for a son or daughter. Very few men can do as good a job as a mother because they let " there you know what " guide them...he had no restraint.
also had he known how to be a real father he would have been able to keep both the women in his life happy.
Did you not hear Tatum herself state how her mother was drugged out everyday? and totally ignoring her small children. At least the Father tried, is everyone on this blog perfect? are all your children perfect? Drug addicts or addicts of various addictions come from all walks of life, God help you if you find one of your children a victim of drug abuse. Do people really believe that everything their child does the rest of their adult life, is the parents fault? Better get out of the Movie Star magazines & read some actual medical evidence of addictions.
I've rarely seen an interview so Freudian as this!! Who's the parent? He expects – (and expected all those years ago) - his daughter to "build him up" or be supportive of his life? He has put her in an adult role and on an equal level as his love relationship!! Where's Dr. Phil? And where in the world would he begin with this trainwreck of a parent? This is a sickening interview.
Agree about the Dr. Phil comment. I'm disappointed in Oprah for just letting cameras follow this train wreck of a reunion, tabloid style, without getting them some real help like she did with Sarah Ferguson. Ryan O'Neal could use a blunt, no-nonsense dressing down from Dr. Phil and Tatum could use his support. And in this interview, Piers Morgan should have called Ryan on his outrageous behavior rather than pandering to it.
PIERS MORGAN, SHAME ON YOU! And I like you and your show. First off, when you interview Tatum you just kept asking her questions about Farrah whom she had no real relationship with. You never acknowledge that Tatum that could barely read when she got the roll in Papermoon because her first seven years where spent with her addict mother who never sent her to school. I thought Tatum showed much grace in your interview for someone who had such a horrible childhood.
And now you let Ryan O'neal go on and on about badly Tatum treated him when she was a child over Farrah. Ryan gave up his parental rights when he started lusting over Farrah and I like Farrah alot. NOT ONCE DID YOU REMIND MR. ONEAL THAT HE WAS THE PARENT AND TATUM WAS A CHILD! GIVE ME A BREAK! And to let him say that his child caused Farrah's cancer, is inexcusable and an insult to those with cancer and a slap in the face to any child who has a parent with cancer. Ryan Oneal has just confirmed on national TV what a selfish person he is. He has to be the worse parent I've every heard of. MR. MORGAN WHAT'S YOUR EXCUSE? Have you lost your journalistic edge or do you let your guests say such outlandish things just to get high ratings. Please be more decent in the future.
well said. but you have forgotten pier morgan WAS NEVER a serious journalist. Neither does he ASPIRE to be one. in fact, i think he would be completely flattered if he is reading my comment. as he taking home millions of dollars everyone year for acting like a pathetic excuse for a journalist.
Every extra minute of this is another piece of evidence pointing to someone who has severe pathological problems. If he would even take one tiny piece of responsibility for anything that happened with his life or his kids, I might have an iota of sympathy. But he has no insight whatsoever s to what children need for true happiness. Quite frankly, I feel very, very sorry for him and his family.
SO SORRY FOR YOU AND RYAN,TOO. HIS FATHER MUST HAVE NOT BEEN HUMAN, EITHER.
REMEMBER GOD LOVES YOU, ERIN ,ALWAYS AND FOREVER.
I hope I never see this man again. Ryan O'Neal is a narcissist, ego-driven, self absorbed person. He referred to Griffin as that guy. He is even going to take a DNA test in hopes that Griffin is not his son. It is no wonder that Griffin and Tatum grew up with so many emotional scars.
Wow, the only one I am seeing not being honest is Ryan himself. Everything is everyone else's fault, wah, wah, wah. Tatum would do well to avoid trying to make any kind of peace with this idiot. What a pathetic excuse of a father. All of the kids would do well to steer clear of this sicko.
Perfectly well spoken, Michelle. I so agree with you that Tatum needs to stay away from him, she will never have genuine peace in her life trying to have a relationship with this thoughtless, selfish, immature, mentallly and emtionally depraved person.
Unless I missed it, I didn't see or hear any confrontation of Ryan in regards to busting his own childs teeth out. What a sloppy interview. I seriously wonder what the hell Farrah ever saw in this jerk. I stick by what I said earlier...Tatum, run girl, just run away from that sickness and stay well. You will NEVER get any peace with that sick mess and all he will do is drag you down!
I think Ryan O'Neal is sincere and I think his pain is real. My heart goes out to him. Tatum is looking for revenge. I've been in Tatum's shoes. My parents divorced when I was 10 and I had an extremely close relationship with my dad, who raised me. Then when I turned 14, my dad remarried. I could not accept his new wife as my mother........and as a normal teenager, who rebels at that age to any parents, I gave my stepmother a hard time. My dad was caught in the middle. Bottom line - he was torn and could not win because he could not please us both. I see the suffering Ryan is going through and I think of the situation my own dad was in. Wiser than Tatum, I did not try to break down the relationship between my father and my stepmother. I was much wiser than she and I instead left home so that my dad did not have to make choices between us. It hurt me; it hurt my dad..........but it was out of LOVE that I made this choice. Could my dad have done other things?? Certainly. He could have sat us both down and said I love you both and you WILL get along............but he did, as Ryan did, he did nothing. Fortunately, as I grew older, the past was put behind us. This is what needs to happen between between Ryan and Tatum. You CANNOT CHANGE the past !! FORGIVE YOUR FATHER, TATUM - grow up !!!!! He loves you - stop blaming him for your problems. Ryan, I hope you find love again; let go of your children and the past..........move on. If your children love you, they will support you. If not, let your children go; they are adults. It's time they take responsibility for their own lives. There comes a time of accountability - they are beyond that age. Don't beat yourself up over their mistakes. I hope you find love again, Ryan. You need to be fulfilled and your children cannot give you what you need. However, I give you credit for "trying" with Tatum.
Most respectfully, I am sorry that you had to sacrifice for your father. I think what most of us are saying tonight is that the children should not have to take the fall for the parents. You are right – you must forgive the past. But he is not forgiving his children – and he basically blamed them for almost all of his problems and their own. So he is not taking any of the accountability that you are indicating is the most healthy approach for people in these situations.
Are you kidding me? Ryan has been sick with envy over the fact that Tatum won the Oscar. That one event set their future. He loves no one but himself.
You are so right! I can't even look at this man, never mind watch the reality show. I was sick to my stomach after listening to him on Piers Morgan last night. What a repulsive "human" being he is, and I feel so very sorry for his children. May God help them despite the father they are stuck with.
wow not sure what show you just watch CJ Cordner but it looks like you are the only one that blames tatum and think ryan is fine. It sounds like you had a screwed up childhood.
So now you are attacking me !! I didn't say Ryan is "fine"; it's quite obvious he's not. I just think at a certain age, all "children" need to accept their past and move on. Living in the past is futile and "blaming" others is a cop-out. The past cannot be changed. My childhood was not "screwed up" for the record and I am living a happy and NORMAL life and not spending it blaming other people for mistakes I made growing up.
Mr Cordner, I am not sure how old you are now but I think it's wonderful that your life has turned out so well. But for many of us who had difficult childhoods it is not easy to recover & some never do.Griffin, who Ryan alleges may not be his son needs to look in the mirror, you don't need DNA. I am old enough to remember Peyton Place, along with Mr O'Neal dragging Tatum around to clubs. Mr O'Neal can deny all he wants but it doesn't make it true. And did anyone else watch Farrahs reality show? What a joke they both should have gotten therapy. No wonder she refused to marry him rght to the end. Griffin, Tatum, Redmond & I believe there's another child need to move along & try to find some happiness for the rest of their lives. Personally I don't think they will ever get what they so need from their father.If Mr O'Neal feels guilty, which by the way I don't believe he does, I'm thinking he may be a sociopath. Either way he sure makes my mentally ill father look like a saint. And at 54 I continue to suffer from my childhood. It just gets easier.
tns, you yourself should deal with your own old records playing from your childhood, this is 2011 seeking professional help is not the taboo as it was years ago.
thank you for replying honestly. Ryan is still a decent man. At what level should a father endure bad and very hurtful behavior from his children before it really breaks him. Yes he is the adult and the father... but good grief, did he really have to endure punishment and wrath like that? Yes, children hurt, but they also know better....you always know right from wrong deep down in your heart.
CJ Cordner, thank you for posting a healthy way of looking at the interview of both Tatum & Ryan. I felt as if I was a minority amongst these blogs. As far as I have noticed; there aren't any parenting skills taught in school & unless an adult him/herself experiences great parenting, parents especially of Ryan's generation pickup some of what they themselves experienced as children & try some of their own methods. I'm of Ryans generation, I was given darn good lick'ens which I probablyu deserved, now days would be called abuse, didn't hurt me in the end. I knew perfectly well my parent loved me & would have done anything to see my life turned out perfect if that were possible for my parent to contribute towards. Basically I have been appalled at the judgments towards Ryan, there's an old saying from my generation; "Don't judge anyone until you have walked in their moccasins" still appropriate today.
Which ever pair of rose coloured glasses you were wearing while watching Ryan Oneal posturing and pretending for an hour, I would love a pair!! Never seen a more pathetic display of parental love in my life!! Anyone who has ever had a child knows that we give our heart and soul for them even when we find a new partner!
People like Ryan O'Neal have never been fulfilled and never will be. Is it his children's fault that he hit them, verbally abused them, abandoned them? Dont waste your time feeling sorry for someone who has no feelings or regard for his own children. He is an addict and most likely a sociopath with no conscience.
Good Grief. I feel so sorry for all the O'Neal Children, and wish them all the best. They've obviously had to parent themselves. What an emotionally immature narcissist. Calling Dr. Drew.....
I agree with Michelle. Tatum: head for the hills; don't look back.
Some causes aren't worth the fight.
Take care of YOU, like you've always had to do.
Mr. Ryan is out of control. Stand up to this man, don't let him blame others. He needs more than therapy.
What a horrific,deluded self obsessed being. It is a wonder that his children have survived @ all. I have a new found respect for Tatum, Griffin and Redmond. Its a miracle that they can even function in society.
Nice to reinvent the history of your life. You stole your friend's wife and basically abandoned Tatum and Griffen to have Farrah all to yourself. He says they blame him but who as a real dad would act the way he has.
Tatum, stay strong for your sobriety and to have a relationship with your children and realize that Ryan cannot break out of his own ego. He will never be able to give you what you hope he can...........
Piers, you walked a fine line between adept interviewer & ego stroker, tonight.
Ryan crossed the line of being a parent to being a companion of a child. Regardless of how intelligent, Tatum was, she was a child who needed to be nurtured, safe, positively mirrored and loved. Possibly some Oscar envy there from Ryan, as well.
Tatum was robbed of a childhood by her spoiled, self-centered, childish father. Guess what, if your married girlfriend/boyfriend doesn't get along with your child, as a parent, you choose your child. If you do not want all of the responsibility and sacrifice that goes with having children, wear a condom.
Tatum has survived with no help from a parent. Kudos to her for her strength and heart.
I agree. And really, what the heck kind of interview was that? Maybe Piers could be the adoring child Ryan would accept.
His younger brother, Kevin, has had serious mental problems for years. They weren't overly obvious during our school years, but apparently, high drug use compounded his psychological problems. I only spoke with him once after graduation, and it was positively chilling.
I think Ryan is being honest, upfront and open to come out and speak about his family in such a raw and emotional state. Everyone who is accusing him of being a terrible dad should take a look at their own lives before making judgements. His kids were no Sunday picnic, and caused a lot of trouble and stress for him and Farrah. I do not think people understand what pain and destruction drug addict are capable of causing. I commend Ryan for giving an emotional and open interview, and answering the questions as honestly as possible. I am sure he was not the most perfect father but who it. The kids have responsibilities as well, and it is time they give the old man a break.
Thank you, Jerry - I was beginning to think I was watching a different show than these others. What the media has shown throughout the years and what we actually know are most likely not the same. But it shows the youth of today and how "everything is all about them". Look at our society today; kids think their parents owe them everything and are very disrespectful, I guess they've never been taught to "Honor Thy Father" !!
Thank you CJ & Jerry. you two just told us more about yourself than the people you are talking about. please published your email so i could report you 2 to child protected services. but i suspect it wont be necessary as your children would have disown you two by now. maybe that is why you guys could see things from Ryan eyes so clearly?
Those of us who aren't great parents don't go on national television and trash our kids and blame them for causing the cancer and death of our partners. Come on Jerry!
Judgemental: cancer is devastating to a family. I know, I'm a cancer survivor. Family members, with any loved one, with any illness, look at themselves and their behaviours and often feel guilty. As parents it's our job to assure our loved ones that the did nothing to create the cancer. For someone like Ryan O'Neal to go on a widey broadcasted show and make that comment was cruel and stupid.
Yes I know what pain and destruction a drug addict causes in a family, tears them apart. But look where those kids came from. People are being judgemental because he didn't take any responsibility in that interview for any role he may have played in their 'misspent youth'.
Congratulations on being a cancer survivor !! It seemed to me that Ryan is in that state of "guilt", which people go through after losing a loved one. What I saw was him saying that "stress" period, which we all know is a part of all illnesses, did not help her in her battle with cancer. I'm sure your family worked with you and not against you as you struggled.
that would all make perfect sense if Ryan didn't have a history of drug and alcohol abuse himself. Why did he not have the same responsibility to his children that you indicate his children should have to him.? I think they do understand completely what pain and destruction that can cause, they followed in his footsteps.
Jerry, spoken like a real human not one of the perfect parents on this blog.
you obviouly do not understand the diff between imperfect everyday parents vs abusive parents. there IS a CLEAR distinction. but like i have said to both jerry and cj, maybe his failure as a parents hit closer to home with you as well?
I agree, it is so sick how Ryan relates to Tatum like she is his ex-wife or girlfriend! Poor Tatum will never find a father inside this ship wreck of a man! I have no sympathy for him and I don't know how Farrah put up with him. Only another abusive parent would sympathize with him. The way he talks about Tatum's suicide attempts with no concern at all, only accusations of lying! I'm repulsed by him and how he has treated his kids! Let him go drown in his bottle.
Sick. Sick. Sick. A sick delusional narcissist. His kids never stood a chance. It's a miracle Tatum is a survivor. My heart goes out to her brothers who don't seemed to have coped too well. So sad.
You sound like an uneducated baboon. There are MANY books that talk about stress & cancer. Have you ever heard about how it's good to stay away from 'toxic' people? Why do you think it's so important to do that? Go ahead hang out with a person who is toxic & drainning then see what happens. Try doing it for over a 20 year span. First off, Ryan O'Neal is not well himself & is in therapy still learning, has opened up alot, taken ownership on things (Tatum said he did). He has done this all while having lost Farrah, so he is still in the mourning process. I'd like to see you do all that while losing your partner of 25 years that you have a child with. Second of all read the book ' You Can Heal Your Life' by Louise Hay. In the book & many others it states how cancer can be exacerbated from envirnomental stressors. It states cancer is 'deep hurt and/or long standing resentments.' Everyone on this forum talks out of there a#@hole because they want to focus on someone who "appears" in worse shape then there own self & it's disgusting. People love to think they know all about someone because they are on TV & they say something that they misunderstood in the first place. Ryan didn't say it was definitely caused by them, he said likely & that knowbody really knows what causes cancer, but that stress can be a contributing factor. It can.... period!
Ryan needs help! After years of alcohol & drug abuse (maybe even still) I think has fried his brain! GO GET PROFESSIONAL HELP!!!
Ryan O'neal shows many sides. One can judge him; blame him and thrash him but no one can reach inside his world to discover the life as he sees it; the life as he experienced it and the life he felt in his heart. I see Mr O'Neal struggle with "what now."
I'm NOT going to play the "Blame Game", I am going to make a wish. I wish a new step forward for both Ryan O'Neal, his daughter and his son. I wish that each step they take moves them forward to healing. If any of them step sideways I hope they are strong enough to let go and keep moving.
Ryan O'Neal – keep moving, keep loving and keep hoping. Guard yourself from all that is toxic, guard your family from all that is toxic. Your life is worth loving.
Good advice. I hope Ryan takes it to heart.
Thank you for your comment. Pain is like ants fleeing an ant hill. The way out is an uphill battle, then when you emerge you are faced with a faltering slide to the earth. I think I want to scream out my window "PEOPLE IN GLASS HOUSES." His anger and sadness paints him for now but he will come out of this. I don't care what he did or didn't do. There's no way to create a "do over." I hope he reads this as well.
From the two of us... move on and move up!
I believe that Ryan O'Neal will, one day, have to answer to a higher power. He will, undoubtedly, be found wanting. He was a bad actor 40 years ago, and has not gotten any better. To see him on TV was disgusting. He was totally acting. I cannot, for the life of me, understand why his children want anything to do with him. Tatum is no saint either. I think they must have a deal to make money. We are the fools to waste our limited time on this earth to listen to him. (And yes, I am one of those fools!). The question is why Farah stayed with him. She is the true victim in all of this. A lovely person who wasted her life on him. As far as Piers Morgan, I think he just let Ryan ramble on to show to the world what a fool he really is. The more he talked, the worse he seemed.
Grow up mr o'neal. It's time to take responsibility for your past mistakes with ALL ur children. All those kids wanted was a father to admire, and who made them feel safe and loved in ur unscrupulous world. Meeting the queen or having material things never filled the lonely void in their hearts. Proof of that is right before u. U r a very selfish man at ur age. Let go...dah???
Piers, you had Ryan pour out his emotions, heart and tears over Tatum and Farrah. Basically his life is a wreck, Farrah is gone and Tatum is around. Don't you think the least you could do is to patch them up together....call them on your show and oh what a happy ending to a very very sad story. The love is electrifying, we all felt it...please bring them together before its too late ! Tatum, like it or not, you will miss him when he's gone...so make the move !
I just saw the interview with Ryan O'neal and all I want to say just like I am a daughter who was close to her father:you know-daddy's girls....Ryan this message is for you, I hope you can read and understand what is at the core of this pain with your daughter ....when you said :she was spoiled, happy, had acces to all the stars like MJ, a milliarnaire at 12.....yes your right, but that is not all true Ryan. The simple thing she wanted was YOU Ryan. Her daddy there with her to spend time together. Your ATTENTION and LOVE is what she wanted and all she wants today, She wants you to see that and accept that. She will continu her crussade she is still on today, until you accept that you were and are the thing she lost and misses. Can you get that? accept that? can you see it from when you say she was spoiled? to her, she wasn't. When you loose the parent you most admire and love and worship, nothing in the world else matters. Please Ryan, open your eyes and let go of your PRIDE and admit you let her down, and she waited at the curv but you did not come. do you get that? when you do, you will the daughter who was hurt as a little girl, who was daddy's girl, but you replaed her with FF, the love of your life and there was not even a little place for your little girl. Do you get that? can you see why she still talks the way she doe? I hope you can let go of your pride and really hear her pain that really comes from a 12 year old not a woman....your little girl.
Ryan O'Neal: How can you expect your children to give you permission to have a "love affair?" All children know is that mom is gone, now dad has found someone else to love. And, obviously, at this point the majority of your attention and affection was spent on Farrah. No matter how wonderful Farrah was, each of your children needed to be reassured BY THEIR FATHER that THEY were THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN YOUR LIFE. It should never have been either/or, it should have been all-inclusive. Shame on you for blaming your children for killing Farrah. Did you ever think Farrah's death was a gift that God gave you to help your heal the wounds you have inflicted upon your children's psychological skin. People turn to drugs and alcohol because of deep-seated hurt inflicted upon them, intentionally or not. The only avenue to healing your family is for you to OPEN YOUR EYES, see your mistakes for what they are and to take responsibility for those mistakes. IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU!!!!! Being a parent means that you sacrifice yourself and, if necessary, your happiness to raise them into the best adults possible. To do less is irresponsible. Because your life did not turn out the way you felt it should does not make it okay to blame your children (for YOUR mistakes). Sometimes you can't have it all, even though you think you deserve it. God creates situations in our lives to help us resolve our own issues. Have you ever considered that Tatum is actually your gift from God and not your thorn? Maybe in healing yourself you will, in turn, help to heal Tatum. You seriously need a wakeup call and some counselling. I sincerely hope you get it! Otherwise, you can kiss your family goodbye.
Poor Ryan O'Neal – His daughter Tatum was choking, stifling and cramping his style while he was trying to date Lee Majors then wife. Poor , Poor Ryan – what a disgusting person he is – he doesn't deserve the airtime. Please, will he just go slither back under his rock? I've never seen/heard anything like this waste of life.
Pier Morgan, If Ryan O'Neal says, "God she is like her mother, a scorpion" then you should seriously consider that he has suffered mental abuse from these women. It is not that the star signs are right, it is that one normal way of describing the experience of living with people who are abusive is to think, it is as if they are from the sign scorpio. If his wife was abusive and his daughter is abusive then it is nonsense to say that both he and his daughter have suffered. It may indeed be overwhelmingly that he has, that he has been wrapped up by them, silly as it seems for a man nto be tied in knots byu his daughter. He say she is very clever, perceiving people who are manipulative to be clever is normal, it is hard to believe how they ahave wanggled things the way they have. Mind you he seems to be very unreal about what a child needs, as does the mother of Paris Hilton. Imagine letting Donald Trump turn your early teens teenager into a model!
Also Ryan O Neil seems out of his depth with a lot of people, that indicates that he is not good at people, that they are inclined to get the better of him. Those who tie others in knots usually claim to be very popular and have no problems with other people, say that other people all love them, though they are not the only group of people who see themselves as loved, other people are something the manipulative handle easily. bullying runs in families the hildren learn i toff their mothers.
You have to read books about mobbing or bullying and if he is being bullied, you have to tell him to get the hell out of there and forget his daughter, maybe he needs to learn so he goes on.
Has he tried the sort of psychiatrist who deals with those who have been bullied who would help him if this is any part of his problem?
Thirty percent of people suffer from bullying at some point in thier lives. You as a reality show host should know about bullying from the bullies side, though you seem nice as an interveiwer. Hardly anyone seems to read about mobbing and bullying and that is a situation that is not, "you have both done wrong" it is that, you are being done for, get out.
In the nursing proffession in England they say it works to say to bullies, "we all know what you are up to", they say bullies are weak and stop bullying if a lot of people stand up to them, mind you bullies are clever and so it is likely to be them that suggest you are the bully and need rounding on because the nurses say that is the right behavior with bullies.
Things arent always, or are never, it takes two to fight, they are, Gadafi is doing for his people. They are that one person is doing for another, and the bullies are normally are good at pulling in all others to help them do for people. If you have time you just have to listen and listen for years without interfering, intefering makes it hard for people to express themselves they start saying what you want them to say or trying not to say what you want and people are very good at seeign what others want of them from the smallest facial expressioin, nIf you just listen for years and are open minded, in the end you should find out which is the truly troublesome one. rose macaskie.
Are you smoking on the same pipe as Ryan???
I am watching the Ryan O'Neal interview and am just sickened. She was his child! He expected certain behavior of her that just wasn't possible – because she was a child! And she needed to feel that she was his first priority, which is what all children need to be whole and happy. I am so sorry for Tatum and what she has gone through. Tatum – if you are reading these posts, please understand that it's obvious to the viewers what you endured. It's just not obvious to him. You looked lovely and really happy and I wish you continued health and healing.
I would like to have one question answered, where is Patrick O'Neal, the son of Ryan and Leigh Taylor Young. He seems to be the only one who you never hear of having these sort of proplems. Tatum is no angel, once she lbecame an adult, although she had problems, she could have seeked professional help for her problems or rehab. However, Ryan is a major contributor to most of his children's problems. I have heard Tatum speak kindly of Leigh Taylor Young and wonder if she still has any association with her and Patrick. Ryan leaving his children to move in with Farrah is so wrong on so many levels. This is a totally dysfunctional family, I wonder if they will ever be able to overcome all the baggage they carry and as some of you have stated previously maybe it is best to go their separate ways and live life for them and their iloved ones.
Leigh Taylor Young kept her son away from Ryan. I did see an interview one time where Ryan said he did not like Patrick because he was not a nice person. What kind of parent would ever say that and on an interview.
He was the only one that didn't have to contend with that self involved, looney, unsufferable train wreck of a father Ryan.
People making comments here are cross with Ryan O Neal for slanging off his daughter. Now so many people suffer from things like the AA and marriage advice and similar, it is so much part of our culture and if you go through anything like this or know those who do, then people are asked to spit it all out and so it comes to each one slanging the other off be they fathers or daughters or whatever, which is still culturally unacceptable though this sort of process is becoming normal.
It is very interesting turning on your loved ones, you learn things about the other you never expected to learn, and become better at understnading people and advicing them. It is also terrible, you tear at the people you love or discover your family never liked you anyway. It is heartbreaking. It is for me friends who push me to attack others, so extended are these pratices of psychology tha teveryone pressurises everyone to partiipate in them.
If Ryan O Neal has been through this sort of thing, he has had enormouse pressures to talk about what he feels about his daughter, that is what this sort of thing is like. Even his daughter would ask him to join in this sort of process so either we support this sort of thing and understand when a father slangs off his child or we say we dont approve of the whole process, we can't have it both ways. I think in many ways those who organise this sort of process are so selfsatisfied that they are not trying very hard to make sure hurtful parts of these processes are kept to a minimum, they revel in them, there should be more criticism of them. rose macaskie.
I don't think talk shows and/or reality t.v. is the best forum for sorting out the depths of this pain. I don't find it entertaining. I have always liked both Tatum and Ryan. I know I won't be watching their program. I wish them all the best.
oh also he tried to pick up his daughter at Farrah's funeral. Where do you even begin with that one! Picking up someone at the LOVE of your life's (so you say) funeral or that you did not know your own daughter. He is such a catch! LOL!
Although they are all grown now...my heart goes out to his children. He has been a poor example of a parent in every meaning of the world. Just listen to how he tells the tale of "Bad News Bears"..like he was the doting father that didn't want his children to live in this world...only he leaves out, unless the money was right. He puts all the blame on his children...but then he was the one supposedly rearing these children...that all ended up being into drugs.
Everytime I've seen him..especially during Farah Fawcetts illness...he seemed to fake and phony. It seemed as though the only reason he hung in there...is because of the spotlight. So false. So leacherous.
But he'll get his in the end.
Ryan you are pathetic get some help!
So many people on here seem to think one should just always forget and forgive anything. I don't agree with that, it's illogical and foolish. Each time Tatum forgets and forgives, her "father" will just hurt her again. It's only good to forgive and forget when the abuser is genuinely sorry and makes amends too. O'Neal certainly doesn't fall into that category!
Tatum's father came first, he was the parent, he should have been the one to get things right and not leave that up to the kids! How preposterous Ryan O'Neal is!
I have watched Tatum grow up in the media and I have always felt so sorry for her, seeing what kind of a father she had/has.
Ryan O'Neal is such an incredibly stupid, vain and selfish man. I hope he realizing this when he sees the tape of the show, although if he doesn't know enough to keep his mouth shut by now, I'm sure he's oblivious. It is shocking to hear his comments about his daughter, and the idea that his family - I think he was pretty much specifically talking about Tatum in the way he said this - was the cause of Farrah's cancer... what complete CRAP! He is outrageously demented - he sounds like a 14-year old. A 14-year old narcissist. I want to smack my TV right now!
Holy cow! This guy never should have been allowed to have kids. He is a narcissistic monster. I can only imagine the pain he has caused - and continues to cause– his kids. Ryan you should apologize and then go away.
I believe that this is Ryan O'Neils best performance yet. Unfortunately this performance seems to blame everyone else but himself. He starts to cry but yet his eyes remain dry. Sorry Ryan Joe Public does not by it. Tatum seems to be the one showing dignity and grace.
I read almost a 100 replys and this is mine. Farrah was two days older than me. I remember getting mad at my husband for stareing at her picture when I was 19 and pregnant. I still have her hair, and sort of her body and I was madly in love with Ryan O'Neal after Love Story. I have watched and listened to him over the years and he is much of what all these people detest and resent BUT, Farrah loved him and reached out to him in her final days. He was there for her until the end and in spite of what ll these people think, THAT has a value.
Wow, I think everyone is so quick to judge . . it's sad what his whole family went through but I don't think he should take the blame for everything. I found the interview quite honest and he is trying to reconcile which is more than a lot of people who never do and his daughter as well. I don't think any one should be so quick to judge it all . . maybe embrace the outcome which could be helpful to others.
Ryan appears to be a broken man. I think his grief over the loss of Farrah is truly clouding his common sense if he ever had any in the first place. It's astounding that he expected a 15 year old CHILD to have the emotional maturity of a 30 year old woman who could support his then new relationship with Farrah Fawcett. He is totally oblivious to the pain of emotional abandonment that his teenage daughter must have felt when he left her in the dust.
He also comes across of being totally ignorant of the origins/onset of addictive behavior . This is a father (old school at the age of 70) who has no idea of the Recovery/healing process that BOTH he and his daughter need to go through together to achieve acceptance of the past. This is not about blaming each other,rather it is about forgiveness and moving forward. I pray they make it,but I'll say it again...SHE WAS THE CHILD and she needed a parent. She did not benefit in the least from being "left at the curb" whether or not he intended to come back. Coming back was too late. The damage had already been done to this young lady.
Ryan needs to check himself into an alcohol rehab center if he expects to have any relationship whatsoever with his siblings and extended family. Tatum should dump all of her groupies, I mean "friends," whom she has been "reunited" with in Los Angeles. If she wants to stay sober, she should dump the groupies.
Wow – not much to add here. Feel for Tatum, her siblings, their children and so on. What a miserable excuse for a father. I haven't really followed the ONeal saga over the decades, but Ryan is never going to change or take ownership of his actions – has it always been so obvious what a horrible human being he is???
Sometimes, through no fault of our own, we get children who are addicts and think they hate us no matter what we say or do. I know your pain and I commend you for putting yourself out there for us the viewers so we know we are not alone but you can't be responsible for Tatum. She is an adult and accountable for who she chooses to be. So much of what you said I could identify with. Be strong and know that you are God's child and he loves you too.
What do you mean "Through no fault of our own".....IF EVER FAULT CAN BE FOUND, IT IS WITH THIS POOR EXCUSE FOR A FATHER!! The man consumed drugs and alcohol and had them around in their homes when his children were young and impressionable. What kind of an example did he set for his children? I read that when Ryan was involved with Ursula Andress, Tatum used to get into bed with them. Ursula didn't like it, she thought it was abnormal but SHE had to TELL Ryan to put a stop to it! I'm not sure that Ryan will appreciate your encouragement and reminders that God loves him since he has no religious beliefs, affiliations or practices, and his children weren't baptised either. Odd, since Farrah was never seen without her Rosary in the months before she died.
I thought the interview was very interesting. I too, think many people are too guick to make a sorry judgement of
Ryan O. I saw a broken man, struggling to get his life together. He made mistakes, he has taken a hard hit for those.
I don't feel I can judge his actions, as a person or parent. How many if us would go on National TV and say what we are really thinking or feeling. Wouldn't many of us just filter our responses to senstive questions. He just said it like it is
I personally have had conversations with Tatum and Griffin about their "family life". So I see the interview in another
I thought Pierce did a great job with the interview, very fair, yet compasionate.
Wow....sad, sad, sad. But, he told it like he saw it and the thing is.....there are LOTS of people who view the world just like he does. He was unusual in that he said honestly what he was thinking. I wish it wasn't so, but some of his comments reminded me of my own father, only he doesn't go on national television.
I, too, found the interview with Ryan compelling and heartbreaking. He appeared very transparent and honest, so unlike Tatum ( whose interview aired a few days earlier ). Tatum presented with some obvious mental health issues – lying, blaming, denial etc- and her own history of her disasterous marriage to John MacEnroe, utter failure as a parent, and now appraching 50 years of age blaming all of her shortcomings on her father ( and Farrah, by default ). I don't know any perfect parents, but at least he tried – unlike her mother who abandoned her completely for the bottle. Grow up, Tatum and get some professional help. And playing the "woe is me, my life sucks because I'm totally irresponsible and choose to blame Dear Ol' Dad" is positively nauseating and trite. I feel sad for Ryan for trying to find some semblance of familial caring from such an obviously manipulative sociopathic daughter. Son Redmond, on the other hand, is in real pain and would surely benefit from more of Ryan's love and attention – not just write another bleating self-absorbed book a la Tatum and the current pop culture.. Ryan ought to put his efforts there, and stop wasting his time and emotional energy being Tatum's doormat.
Piers did a super job interviewing, as usual. Thank you, Piers.
I find it amazing that there are any people on here who sympathize with Ryan. Wow, talk about naive. I contend that the only people who would sympathize with Ryan are fellow abusers and others living in denial. I see nothing wrong with criticism where criticism is due.
That was one of the most riveting and sad interviews I've seen in a long time..well done to PM and RO'N.
Piers, you got scammed. Two nights in a row. She was always the better actress and she is truly a beautiful woman and I bought it. Then, the worst actor in history, boo-hoos for an hour and mid way I realized – boo-yah – it's on us. Tune in for the reality show. Who watches the reality show if there is normalcy between them? I mean, he's as low as it gets bringing Farah Fawcett through this but you gotta give it to him, he's playing for his money.
Well said Ed!
I was on fire during this interview. I watched Tatum the night before and thought she did an adequate job of not doing much blaming and taking some responsibility. Her dad on the other hand....what a thoughtless, pompus, jerk. She indicated that he had a temper "but that was him" and then he blames his temper on them??? WHAT PARENT DOES THIS? He says "they were wild". WHOSE FAULT IS THAT? Like someone posted earlier – Tatum, get away from this person; just because he is your father, doesn't make him good for your soul.
Tatum didn't cause Farrah's cancer. Farrah's cancer was caused by the HPV virus, which someone transmitted to her through an*l s*x.
The difference between a sociopath and a narcissist: A sociopath doesn't know the difference between right and wrong. A narcissist knows the difference, he (or she) just doesn't care and therefore takes absolutely no responsibility. If one or even two of Ryan's children had a lot of personal issues, drugs, being out of control, etc., one may have some empathy for the parents, but when they all have, those feelings of empathy fall away completely, especially since you see his years of bad behavior modeled for his children again and again and again. He never grew up and became a responsible adult. Why does he then expect his children to behave in a more mature manner than he ever has?
Everything you read about narcissism states that that they will never change (because they don't want to). It is never "their fault", not even partly their fault. As some have stated: Who was the adult here? 'Tatum was never there for me, she never supported me, she stopped stroking my ego, blah, blah, blah'. The thing most advised to family members of narcissists is to GET AWAY from the narcissist! Sounds like Tatum did the smart thing for 25 or so years and she has gotten clean and a lot more healthy. It is kind of sad actually that since reality shows have become popular and money makers, that she has gotten talked into doing this reality show (to make some bucks) and to hopefully heal the old family wounds. First of all, you don't heal old family wounds in public. It's not like they are going to edit out the totally "unspeakable" things that may get said. In fact, the producers will play on those exact things and will actually highlight any ugly comments. The show will be short-lived (like every other TV project that Ryan O'Neal has ever been associated with) and Tatum is likely going to be heartbroken again in the end. I just hope she has strong support of her inner circle, doctors, etc., so that she doesn't relapse into some O'Neal-like behaviors. I wish her the best for ongoing strength and happiness. Hopefully this short-lived show will only be a small bump in (hopefully) many happy and healthy years in her life.
I think Pierce must have been talking ot himself as he left the building, after interviewing O'Neal. O'Neal, as a parent, had no clue as to what consituted good parenting skills. And, at 70, even more clueless. When he said he was a "great" parent, I thought the TV sound must have gone awry. His lack of insight is astounding. And, the mere fact that both his children turned into severe drug addicts seems to have gone right over his head. That doesn't just happen. The roots are within him and his atrocious handling of his children. Furthering his cause, claiming that Tatum and his family possibly gave Farrah cancer, only points, again, to his lack of parenting skills. Why would you say that about your child? And, when trying to reconcile, as he claims? He seems to be more than confused, actually delusional about his role in his childrens' lives and how that affected them. To say your child had a "great" childhood because she danced with MJ or met the queen shows his inability to grasp the essentials of parenting. He has no understanding that a parent should protect, nourish and be there for his kids. Therapy, at this point,would be useless. I would only say to Tatum and his other children–why would you let such a person into your lives? He's damaged and at every turn for redemption, still damaged. Run for your lives, close the door, turn off the phone, just say no to having a relationship with this toxic soul...
Ryan O'Neil never ceases to amaze me!! Now he is blaming his children, especially Tatum for Farrah's cancer!!! What a sick sad excuse of a human being that man is. First of all, we will never know for certain, but I would say that it is highly likely he gave cancer to Farrah since he slept with so many woman and most likely transferred the HPV virus to Farrah. If anyone needs to sink low enough to actually blame someone, then it should be him!!! Tatum needs to let him go. And I mean completely. Get that man out of her life and never expect him to love her unconditionally. It will never happen. She will continue to be hurt over and over again for the rest of her life. Ryan screwed up every one of his children. And now he blames them?? What a loser.
I was transfixed by Mr. Morgan's program with Ryan O'Neal. Ryan and I are the same age and have seen many storms in life. You can see the pain and heartbreak on the man's face. I have seen that look before. It is not easy raising children in today's society or losing a love to cancer. Success came early to the people in this story. A visit to Queen Elizabeth or a call from Michael Jackson does not add up to happiness. People need a solid foundation to fall back on when you lose everything else. Most of the time we have to learn to live with pain. I won't bash Ryan O'Neal for not always having the tools to cope. The others have youth to recover so I wish him peace in the Autumn of his years. His children should forgive him and man and woman up before he is no longer there to forgive. Then they will have no regrets on Father's Day as so many do.
Seriously, Ryan? You haven't damaged your kids enough, so now you're going to put Farrah's death on them? You are unbelievably self-centered and don't have a CLUE about being a decent parent, let alone a good one. My advice to your children is to turn their backs on you and pretend you're dead. Otherwise, he will bring you down until the last breath he takes. He's just never going to stop being a horrible father and has no intention of even trying.
The O’Neal’s are not unique. This is simply a situation of decade’s long drug and alcohol abuse in a family. The family will get better once Ryan gets better, and that means for him to check himself into an alcohol treatment center. He needs to start repairing the damage he has created and that will only happen once he gets sober and start living sober. Let's hope for a positive ending to the TV series and that would be a sober Ryan O'Neal.
Ryan O'Neal is 70. Tatum is 47. He is no longer the paterfamilias whose illness drives the family dynamics.
This was one of the most touching interviews I've ever watched. Maybe because I remember Ryan O'Neal as a young man. He was indeed a charmer, off screen as well as on. The people writing here are far too hard on him. He admits he was a rotten father. You're just kicking someone who's down. I would also remind this crowd that it wasn't Ryan O'Neal who was the heroin addict. That was Tatum. Whatever excesses Ryan O'Neal indulged in, I bet they were mostly fixated on partying & women. I'm not aware of his having a drug problem that required serious intervention. Piers asked Ryan if Tatum was a "fantasist". I'd never heard that term before, but I like it a lot. I'm not sure which one is the fantasist in the family - perhaps both. It would behoove all of us to remember that we are watching actors who spend their lives presenting themselves to the public in the best and most interesting light they can.
Last ngiht's interview with Ryan O'Neal was an absolute CRINGFEST. The guy is a complete actor (and a bad one at that) and a narcissistic pathological liar. I cannot believe Tatum would even want anything to do with this guy. Where do you start? He blames Farrah's cancer on Tatum basically which is ludicrous. The guy's been between more legs than the entire Kotex company. Then he makes up an insane story about the drink and the car business–(that he used to say this to her at a little girl and what father would say that to his little daughter) and that's what he meant when he said that to his own daughter at Farrah's funeral - Got a drink, got a car. Farrah wasn't even in the ground yet and he was trying to pick up his own daughter who he doesn't he recognize. Important note: FARRAH DIDN'T LEAVE RYAN O'NEAL A SINGLE DIME IN HER WILL. I WONDER WHY. SHE NEVER MARRIED HIM EITHER. Tatum got her life straightened out and refused to attack her fahter. Ryan on the other hand blamed her for everything short of the hole in the Ozone Layer. He resented his kids for getting in his way. His son, Griffin, hates him. What does that say? And he clamis he didn't know about Tatum's drug and alcohol use. Such BS. He's the one who told her to use Cocaine to lose weight. He is a complete disgrace to fatherhood and an oppotunist. Did the reality show for money. Plus, let's not forget how he stole his best friend, Lee Majors' wife. Yeah, he kept an eye on her for old pal Lee. He is completely disgusting.
Ryan is a very sick person. I enjoy Piers show so much but he should have stopped him. There is a lot of sickness
going on here and to use Farrah as an excuse to keep his name in the headlines is sick enough. He has ruined
all of his childrens lives including Redmond. What does he want from the public. Farrah did not leave him a penny
so it must be money.
I hope that Tatum, Griffin and Redmond are able to forgive their father for his utter failure as a parent. That being said – I also hope that they never forget the damage that he's done and never give him the opportunity to inflict more pain. Tatum – I wish you happiness and success in life but I will never watch your reality show – any healing that this family may find – will not come in the public eye but only through private therapy. By continuing with this sick relationship – you are only continuing the family curse upon your own children. No amount of money or fleeting attention is worth it.
I've read each one of the responses and am stunned, yet not surprised, that most of them throw their own personal judgement on Ryan and Tatum based on their own personal paradigms. Talk about projection and transferrence! I understand that it makes for more media frenzy slash lynch mob on lives that were not our personal experiences. I'm horrified that each person commenting seems to personally know this family's pain and truths while feeling compelled to bash them both. Lynch Ryan, poor Tatum, poor Ryan, lynch Tatum. What we all agree on is that we loved Farrah tremendously and are all still heartbroken/blindsided that we lost her too soon. We love Tatum and recognize that she has her peace to make and though we know that her methods are not pure and may not be completely truthful, we love her more for her efforts. We've watched Ryan in the media (hello, media? really, cause they're truthful?) and judge him mercilessly out of human need for a sacrifice. I know, I live in LA where Ryan's reputation is part of our landscape. Ryan is clearly in pain and whether sober or not – we can plainly see that he had no comprehension of how his personal losses would affect him over time. When he lost Farrah, all of the losses, including the original loss of Tatum re-ignited and though she is here with us, his pain is within, it's why he mixes up their names. It's the pain speaking and it cant differentiate. There's an old saying that you cant feel anothers pain while you're suffering in your own. Tatum, I believe is a great source of understanding for that part having survived her own losses. Ryan is 70 with a 60's mentality and with all due respect not the most evolved in emotional intelligence but his efforts should be applauded and not lynched based on peanut gallery judgements from outside party personal projections. My wish is that they find love, peace and healing as they move through their personal pain of all of their combined losses. Everyone else should shut the F up with their "sickened" comments as if they are the judge and jury. If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem.
to D. Neustel...I love your comments. It is the best post on this forum. You say it like it is...I wish more people like yourself would be around to bring some refreshing insight in 'real lives', as the truth is...thanks
Geez Ryan...even if you totally beleived this....would you have to say it and mention Tatums name....dont you get how this could hurt Tatum??....bad Ryan
I hadn't planned on watching this but did anyway. I had nightmares about it last night. Several. It was worse than a train wreck. I have no idea how human beings are capable of such behaviors to each other. It was almost too painful to watch, but watch I did. Ryan O' looked as if he were having surgery without benefit of anesthesia and while his pain was obviously real, he was so delusional about so many things that I was aghast. Tatum also. It's as if they live in some parallel universe of pain and denial. When he said he thought they might have caused Farrah's cancer I had to think hard about that. What I came up with, is if he's right, He and his spawn were the four horseman of the apocalypse for her. Piers did a great job by not saying or probing too deeply because it seemed to feed off it's self. Great interview but profoundly disturbing.
What a sick, sick, sad man he is.
Sorry, I didn't read all the comments, but I think this dude has been screwed up from the start. First off, when he was talking about meeting Farah who was unhappily married to Lee Majors. "Yeah" If he was mentaly stable , He would have never persued her or had dinner with her just for the fact that he was a FATHER and not to mention she was "MARRIED" "YIKES". So he went ahead with this affair and his children had to witness his pathetic actions". God's wrath should wake people up. I'm surprised they had gotten married at all. I know this goes on all over. It's the world we live in, but it doesn't have to be if adults would stay married and set a good example for their children. What is the divorce rate now? Over 50% last I heard. Looks like our society wants to see what a 100% DIVORCE RATE WOULD BE LIKE. Just think of the politicians we'll generate then. Whoopie....
"God's Wrath", that cracks me UP. As if "God's wrath" has ever been a deterrent. Millions went to the gas chambers in WWII, you think Hitler was worried about "God's wrath"?? You think ANYone is worried about "God's wrath"?? You're hilarious. Go take a nice warm shower.
Oh please. He beat his children (knocked out one of Griffin's front teeth), beat Farrah, got arrested (along with his son, Redmond) for drug use. Then he gets on TV and talks about how "all four of us" (I guess meaning he, Tatum, Griffin, and Redmond) runied Farrah's life when they came along. Redmond is Farrah's child, and so he didn't just walk into her life. This man needs major help, and needs to start taking responsibility for his significant part in injuring his children.
Ryan O'neal is one of the most pathetic people I have ever seen.
I almost had an Elvis moment and blew up the tv. What a liar that Ryan O'Neal. He is disgusting. I think he is living with so much guilt that he is in denial and blaming others. How do you compare Tatum your daughter and Farah your girlfriend. He is a sick puppy and his children are doing great for having a SOB of a father. Tatum don't listen to him stay strong remember your the child he is the adult. His words are lies an america knows it.
It seems that a lot of the judgment on Ryan is that he should not have loved Farrah and his either???? it should have been either or??? Could it be possible that jealousy was a factor in here (not the only factor of course.) you can still love your children and love anoter partner, and if you even luckier than that, that partner loves you back. He and Farrah did love each other. Why is everybody so jealous of that, I guess they don't have that kind of love so they are jealous. NOT GOOD! We should be happy for those who find love like that, not destroy it or put it down.
Good God enough with the judgment. How nice for you all that your lives are so perfect that you can stand back and cast stones. How lovely that you can just fuel negativity and hate. Brilliant. The man came off as very sad and dysfunctional., no question. he is clearly in a lot of pain. He seems to be feeling a massive amount of guilt for the death of his love and for the way he has treated Tatum over the years. In my opinion he should be pitied not stoned.
KATIE, WHAT???????? RYAN FEELS SORRY FOR HIMSELF, AND IS NOT ADMITTING TO ANY WRONGDOING. AS FOR ALL HIS CHILDRENS' MANY PROBLEMS, HE BLAMES THEM. SO SICKENING AND SAD. I DO FEEL BAD FOR RYAN...HE,S SO CRUEL AND HEARTLESS.. THE WAY HE TALKED ABOUT HIS CHILDREN MADE ME SICK. I PRAY FOR HIS SORRY ASS, BUT MUCH MORE FOR HIS KIDS. YEA, JOANNA MOORE WAS A DRUG ADDICT AND PUT THAT BEFORE HER CHILDREN. BUT HOW CAN RYAN SAY HE NEVER ALLOWED DRUGS AROUND THEM AND THEN SAY TATUM WOULD KNOCK JOINTS OUT OF HIS MOUTH. HOW PATHETIC.
I cannot stop thinking about this interview – it was terribly disturbing. Ryan definitely appeared to be intoxicated and/or high. He is a trainwreck and takes no responsibility for anything.
Ryan O'Neal is nothing but a pathetic has-been & Tatum isn't much better.
How interesting that no one mentions the responsabily of the mother in this crazy mess of a family. Obviously, she wasn't the greatest either at raising them. The blame should not be on just Ryan or just Tatum. No matter what, you are always responsible for your actions, that includes all of them.
I can see where dying of cancer would be a viable option if you thought you had to deal with Ryan O'Neal for the rest of your days. Ryan O'Neal is a pain in the azz, for sure. A nastier, crazier individual you'll never find.
Well said SophieCat.
Ryan is an acitve late stage alcholic whos brain is pretty much twisted and distorted from drinking so extensively.
alkies are known for their extreme self centeredness , abusiiveness, denial and failure to take responsibility..and to blame everyone around them for the problems. i wonder how he would behave if he were to get truly clean and sober. but for today..his mind is toxic ..and thats what i see and hear when i watch ryan oneal. its predictably predicatable to any one who knows about alcoholilsm.
I saw the whole interveiw in the end. Tatum O Neal wanted to do a film to earn money to buy a ranch, sounds like she wanted to be back with her mother.
The problem with chid acting, according to Penelope Fitzgerald in her book At Freddies, is that people are not looking after the child taking them to parties and reading them books so much as getting work out of them. They cease to be with people who are looking after them and are with those who are using them. Nornmaly we decide that if possible we wont have children in that competative and pushy and cutting world of work till they are grown ups, even as grown ups it is good to reduce the worst abuses of the work place. rose macaskie.
If memory serves, Farah died of cancer due to and from having contracted anal venereal warts. Let's get him tested for being a carrier of HPV, and then we'll know exactly who killed Farrah. However, I'm sure it was not Tatum that gave her anogenital warts.
I think people are getting the wrong impression about the cancer thing...of course he knows tatum did not "give" her the cancer. He is implying that all the of stress and turmoil could have gotten her sick or contribute to her health in general. I suppose that it is possible with "all of the other stress" of the family put together...it could have attacked her
immune system. But do we really know about the rectal cancer in detail really??/ I think only her doctor knows.
As I read everyone's comments and reflected on the Ryan interview I couldn't help, like some, remember what it was like as a female growing up with a damaged, angry, struggling father who really had no coping skills and was likely, narcissistic or bi-polar. My Dad lost his beloved father when he was only 10 and within a short time had to endure his mother's abandonment of he and his 9 siblings to a abusive step-Dad. I suspect there were ADHD issues as well. Several of his sisters and brothers grew up with similar behaviors – everyone around them were losers and only they mattered. In a sense they all abandoned their wives and children as adults, because the pain of their early years was never healed, but hidden. It was them against the world. My father acted out by cheating on my Mom, who was a real victim because she loved him and tolerated his alchohol-fueled abuse and cheating. She had a future, was a lovely, kind woman, who lost years to the hope that he could really love her as an equal. My Mom, brothers and sisters all suffered from my Dad's behaviors. But, basically, just understand that it all began with unbearable loss, somewhere back in time. You can't heal the future until you heal the pain of the past. You can't have open, loving relationships with your family until everyone tells the truth and is willing to let go of the baggage and apologize. In some way, I think the O'Neils are all just trying as best as they know how. When they learn to do better, they will. My Mom died of lung cancer after years of being on her own and struggling financially. She was the kind of person everyone remembered with fondness. Although my parents had been divorced for years, they maintained contact with each other. To my Dad's credit, on the day before Mom died he went into her room, fell to his knees and sobbed while holding her hand to his face. He lost a father he dearly loved at the age of 10 and was also losing the wife he neglected at the age of 70. Sadly, he didn't realize how deeply he loved her, until it was too late. Grief and regret are terrible things to carry in a heart already burdened by the knowledge of a failed life. My Dad now tells me he loves me – not in the way I wish – but it's enough. I let go of the notion that he could be the Dad I thought he should be and accepted him as a flawed human being who still has enough humility to see he failed us. He has asked to buried next to my Mom when his time comes. I agree with everyone who has said Ryan had obviously deep failings and was responsible for his actions. So were his kids. So did Farah. There are none on the face of this Earth without sin. I hope, with the counseling he and Tatum get, a whole new day will emerge for them all. The best way to honor Farah's memory and life is to find a new and happy life and if they are will to forgive each other, tell the truth and let it go, eventually with professional help, they will heal their family. Until that happens, they will just replay the old tape and keep inflicting pain on each other. I think that Tatum has to let go of the notion that she is still the little girl that needs a father. She is a mom and adult, it's time to bury old resentments and accept her Dad as flawed. When she can stand her ground and face him as an equal, the facade of what "could have been" will disappear. I think that Ryan, like his sons, need anger management counseling and need to find a way to be supportive of each other in a manageable way. Get past the urge to shut each other out. Learn to say "I'm sorry" and just hang out together without judgement. Also, we do know that cancer can be affected by stress and I think Ryan O'Neal was referring to that – I just think he is so engulfed with grief and loss that he cannot function rationally. When we lose our loved ones to cancer, it's a particularly painful road back for the survivors. We feel guilty we're still upright and the "good" one is dead and buried. It's part of coming to terms with the question of why. Again, I just think they are all trying the best they know how.
Cindy R....Thank you for your kind response and understanding. It is nice to see that there are still people out there trying to understand and have empathy, rather than attacking or be so confrontational. Sometimes, you gotta try to put yourselves in somebody elses shoes...and also just be thankfull if your life is better, rather than judge.
It was very nice to read your comment, especially that you've shared that you are from a similar background.
Ryan still doesn't accept that he was the adult figure and accepts no responsibility for the turmoil in his life!!! It was his actions too...everyone has to accept their role in what happens. Tatum's actions might not have been right , but neither were ryan's!!!
Ryan is not a "father."
Ryan was the parent and Tatum was the child. She had no control over what happened to her, but he as the adult should be held fully accountable. For the idiots that think Tatum is messed up, of course she is, look what she had to endure! She had a father who exposed her to drugs as a child and God only knows what else. He beat her and finally abandoned her for a pretty blond and left her and her brother to fend for themselves. What kind of idiot thinks its okay to leave under age children to live unsupervised?
My heart goes out to Tatum. She will never be able to let go of the pain that monster brought, but I pray she can at least come to terms with it and accept it and move on. Since her father is still unwilling to except his part in this, the best thing she could do is turn her back on him once and for all. She owes the man nothing.
Farrah was a smoker. End of story.
Ryan was supposed to be the father in this equation. Tatum was merely the child. Ryan could have cared less about Tatum as a child (clearly shown by abandoning her when she was 15 to live his life with Farrah) All Ryan cares about is Ryan. He needs to grow up, grow some balls and take responsibility for being a horrible father
and then Tatum will have some sense of closure. Seriously, how on God's green earth was Farrah attracted to that man?
Farrah was a vapid bimbo. People usually gravitate to like minded mates.
Ryan is totally lost as a human being
he cannot take responsibility for the mistakes he has made and move on
He's totally a narcissist
does he only get it once people are dead?
Grow up Ryan
As I recall, Ryan does admit that he made mistakes and wished he had done things differently... he was also a single parent trying his best. Nobody dares say anything about the mother??? I guess it's much easier to point the finger at Ryan since "he was the adult and father". Maybe, it was just too much for him. Maybe if his wife was "an adult, and a mother", things could have been different. Tatum was, and is also an adult. Whatever, they are all responsible for their actions today.
Well the last episode of "The O'Neals" has aired. As a parent of a near forty year old child that has a memory that can only be described as something out of "The Twilight Zone", I can understand Ryan's frustration and hurt. Why do children want to only remember and dwell on the most negative of their upbringing? When in reality 85% was probably better than good. In the history of the world there has never been recorded a perfect parent. It will never happen. Most of us do the best we can, we don't get up every morning and say....."Gee, how can I mess up my child's life today". Tatum needs to own up to the choices she made and stop blaming her Dad. And give me a break, she is the one with the twisted take on her relationship with her father!! She is so jealous of Farrah she can't see straight. Tatum, have you ever considered what your children are conspiring against you? From what is public knowledge, you haven't got a chance. Think about it?
What Ryan said was so harsh and cruel and most of all sick! i think Ryan O'Neal is so psychic! How could he say the thiings he said about his own children? Because he is nothing more than a senile old sicko who can't even think straight! I may be way too young(I am 16) to know how famous the O'Neals family was back then but I know that they are one messed up bunch! He is the reason why they are so messed up too! He encouraged drug and alcohol use among Tatum and Griffin were they were my age, 15/16 in the 1970s and he was abusive and left them to fend for themsleves. And if I was one of them particularly Tatum, I would feel so sad and left out. I wouldn't want my mother to leave me like that and especially for their love interest! And in this case, Farrah Fawcett was the love interest! He is such an irresponsible and sick person and parent that is so unreal! He is such a sick human being and I was so grosse out that he hit on his own daugther, Tatum at Farrah's funeral! Sicko! He should go get help for some mental problem or something because he is a sicko!
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I cannot believe all the horrible things people have said about Ryan O'Neal. WE DO NOT KNOW HIM PERSONALLY. WE DO NOT KNOW WHAT HIS MENTAL STAUS IS NOR HOW HE GREW UP. Not that this gives him an excuse, but how do you know something you never learned or were taught by example in which I am referring to parenting skills. He is attempting therapy & seems to be owning more. It doesn't happen overnight. He is a human being who is trying to make his wrongs right. Most people who have done damaging things to another person/family member will never own anything nor go to therapy. Some have done worse & go to the grave never making amends period. I commend Ryan for trying & also exposing himself for all the world to see. That in itself is NOT easy due to the scrutiny from others. This forum is the perfect example. Tatum did drugs with having 3 kids to raise. So see how it works. She messed up with her kids & knowing how it felt when she saw her father use drugs as a child, but she still did it to them. She got to blame her dad. So who does Ryan get to blame? Tatum was able to get help soon & break the cycle. Today we have more available in the way of types of therapy & group support than in Ryan O'Neals time when it was more of a "bad" thing to get help. People looked down on AA in Ryans days. Now it's praised when you go.
I myself struggled with a father who was unemotionally available, selfish & did some damaging things to me as a child into adulthood still. I can remember at 20 years of age thinking how my father did not have the ideal upbringing as a child. I thought that I should have compassion for him because he is hurt deep inside & never delt with those issues/feelings plus didn't have the proper 'tools' to be a healthy, nurturing parent with boundries, guidance, structure & love. This helped me understand him more. He does love me deep inside, but he is damaged emotionally & I feel sad about that. I still strugle between compassion & resentment. My point is that Ryan O'Neal is a human being who seems to be making efforts with going to therapy & he is unaware of a lot yet, but learning. Going to therapy is for a person who wants & is open to change & exploring what wrongs they want to make right. Come on people, you can't fake what he is doing on the show. You can see it is real what's going on bewtween them. Throughout my life I notice the people who criticize the most, have the worst problems & are the biggest hypocrites of all. How would you feel if ALL your business was out there & you were told what a bad person you were when you were trying to make things better by going to therapy & participating in the life of the person you damaged. That's what's going on with what people are writing on this forum. It's negative. This family needs encouragemant & positive reinforcement. I hope the O'Neals continue the journey to healing & have peace, happiness in there hearts.
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I'm Glad Ryan O'Neal Ain't My Father I Didn't Like Ryan O'Neal Cause He's A Drunk,Drug Addict,Child Abuser And Womanizer He Knocked Griffin's Two Teeth Out. I Feel Sorry For Tatum. Jennifer Marshall Didn't Like Ryan O'Neal. I Did Not Like Peyton t Place At All.
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